Planning my first Bachelorette Party for Amanda, I learned a lot about how to budget and make it fun for everyone. I had help to plan that one, and it was a whole weekend getaway in the Oklahoma woods, but I gained a lot of valuable insight.
When it was time to plan Tracy’s Bachelorette, I went in like a pro. I was nervous to do this one alone, but I also was grateful it was one organized night and I could make my own budget. Luckily for me, Tracy is a fellow boho spirit, so I had a lot already on hand that would save me money.
I went in with a small budget – only $120 – hoping I could DIY most of what I needed or shop smart. I have a big craft supply always at hand and I had the experience I needed to go in with the six most important things to plan a successful bachelorette!
I know most people think the theme is that it’s the bride’s “last night of freedom” but setting an actual theme makes the party so much more cohesive and feels more special. I chose boho for Tracy because she’s very hippyish but also because I had a lot of flowers/floral crafts already at my disposal. Let’s just say, I already had 72ft of fake ivy hanging around my house.
Pinterest is your friend when checking out themes. You can get a feel for setting up a space and also good ideas for incorporating party favors and prizes. Our main space would be at a table (originally planned for outdoors but the weather wasn’t kind) so I knew I wanted most of my decor there. Then I did up the Snack and Drink table, knowing it would be the second most visited space.
2. Libations Make a Party
The same golden rule of every party is still true here: never run out of drinks (or snacks secondarily). The cheapest way to ensure this is make one big crowd pleaser drink that would be a feat to empty. I made a tried and true “Gypsy Sangria” recipe that’s never gotten complaints and honestly looked great on the table.
It’s hard asking more of wedding guests because the whole process can get expensive, but making a party potluck style can help you save some money and make sure every guest will like at least one thing at the party. I also texted people on tight budgets cheap party food ideas so no one would feel pressured to commit even more money.
3. Play a Little Dress Up
This can be as simple as just having all the guests wear black, but try and go that extra mile. Everyone wants an excuse to be a little “extra” and get in the spirit of the night! Flower crowns were the obvious choice, but also gave me the opportunity to create an activity to kick things off. At the end, people have a personalized headpiece and have been drinking without that start-of-party awkwardness.
4. Balancing Activities and GirlTalk
There’s nothing worse than going to a party and playing dumb game after dumb game. At the opposite end of the spectrum, just trying to socialize your way through an entire night of unorganized activity is horrific. I made up my mind to have only two games and only two activities. Starting with an easygoing activity is a great idea so people can arrive and get started. Then I waited a bit for the drinks to kick in before starting the first game.
I found bra pong online, which I was nervous about seeming tacky but was such a hit! It allowed me to gift the bride some bras but also revamped a classic drinking game. Next we did tie-dye because we used to always do that growing up at Tracy’s House. It was a nice throwback memento. Lastly we played a game of Fishbowl because I wanted everyone back around the table to end the night.
Throughout all games and activities, I made sure people weren’t rushed through one thing to the next, letting the night flow easily. When the conversation started a natural lull, I knew it was time for the next item on the itinerary. Honestly, drinking also helps – ha!
5. Know When to Penis
Very important to mention: the thing about Bachelorette’s specifically is that they can get gross fast. I think two penis “items” are perfect. You know your bride, so you should be able to determine if you can get away with one more or you might need to take away one. It can be fun because this might be the one party where you have an excuse to make cookies with sugar penis sprinkles. You want it to feel like a bachelorette without going overboard.
6. Gotta Have a Photo Op
Pictures have always been great, but sometimes at parties we can forget to take any. Taking candids at Bachelorette parties can get you into trouble, so create a specific photo space that’s on theme. By doing this, everyone can take good pictures and have something to remember the night. Of course, it also gives the bride another chance to use that hashtag she worked so hard to create!